Living in a universe as the only (alleged) sentient species, we’re all stuck on this blue green planet with a life which sometimes feels meaningless. Thus, for many centuries, we’ve preached about finding purpose and meaning in this very limited period of consciousness between non-existence and death called ‘life’.
When purpose gets mingled in this seemingly obsolete and fleeting existence, life becomes life in its truest sense. With purpose we find the sweet meaning that sparks joy and hope to keep moving forward till we reach our summit. Having purpose in one’s life can help people build resilience and thus, save them from many mental health adversities.
That’s why when we hear about people suffering from mental health problems like depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc, we often hear them say that their life seems meaningless and they feel lost. Therefore, conversations around following one’s purpose and its effect on mental health become relevant.
When the pandemic hit us globally, as a matter of precaution for COVID-19, we were asked to follow the rules for the lockdown.
What happens next? Yes, all the things that helped us fight adversities and rise up resilient, all the things that made our existence seem fulfilling had to come to a stand still. This setback in our lives can potentially render us feeling purposeless, and this in turn can deteriorate our mental fortitude.
He who has a why to live can bear almost any how – Friedrich Nietzsche
But hey, Why the long face? This is exactly why we’re here to help you rediscover and get a hold of that purpose which slipped out during the Corona hassle. We’re here to help you find your why.
We have put together these tips to help you cope with feelings of purposelessness, because we believe that nobody should have to put their mental health at a stake while trying to save their physical health.
While most of us are feeling extremely miserable and are spiralling into depression, anxiety and even suicidal thoughts upon visiting traumatic events from the past and loss of hope for improvement in the future—these feelings may also give rise to loss of hope about ever achieving our purpose again. We are quick to dismiss these feelings and undermine them as mere mood swings from staying indoors all day long.
Ask yourself this:
When we accept that feeling purposeless is what is plaguing us, we may finally begin finding solutions. Acknowledging and accepting the problem is half the problem solved.
When we are grieving, we stop looking at the big picture. We only tend to draw our attention to the narrow image of purposelessness where everything seems bleak. Finding alternatives thus helps us look at the big picture. When we do this, we start noticing different ways to do the things that used to add value to our lives before the lockdown.
Ask yourself this:
Also, do not be scared to try something new. Trial and error is how you can encourage yourself to find potential alternatives rather than being absolute about one. Adaption is a sign of strength and versatility, not flakiness.
Woe to him who saw no more sense in his life, no aim, no purpose, and therefore no point in carrying on – Victor E. Frankl
Routine is what helps us establish a new normal. When we are finally ready to adopt a new lifestyle, building a routine around it can help us reach that fulfilling purpose in the long run—alongside the satisfaction from our daily rituals. Routine is not just for achieving goals, it also adds value to your daily life by giving you things to look forward to.
Routine gives us a reason in the short run and a purpose in the long run to help us cope. Ask yourself this: What little thing can I do every day to add more value to my days during this period?
Although it is contradictory, adding purpose to our lives can also happen outside goal oriented work. These projects come with only two goals: happiness and satisfaction
When we talk about taking up a happy project, what we’re really referring to… is taking up things not for the sake of an end result, but for the sole purpose of just doing that thing.
If you don’t have something that brings joy to others, do something that brings joy to you and is totally independent of your need for purpose. Little things and hobbies that you’ll commit to organically will keep you absorbed, will add to your skill set and of course will give you the fulfillment at the end!
To keep a check on your feelings of purposelessness, it is better to keep a record of them. Journaling can be a great tool for introspection. Diving deeper within yourself can help you recognise your pain points, and labelling them will further help you in finding solutions.
Ask yourself this:
Meditation is also a great way to achieve mindfulness. It can help bridge the gap between your inner self and your brain. Letting yourself be still can be an effective way of emptying your brain fog.
Although we believe that this should be at the very top of the list, we want to give you the benefit of doubt. Also, what more joy than paving your own way to achieving purpose in life?
The problem however begins when the lack of purpose, or the inability to find it can end up making us feel lost or broken for long periods of time. When this hunger for purpose doesn’t get the nourishment it needs, it will eat away on your mental health. If your feeling of purposelessness is getting out of hand, then it’s best to reach out to a counsellor or a therapist as soon as possible.
Don’t know where to begin? Start with us! At Yellow Club, we believe in lending a helping hand to all those who ask for it. With a highly experienced team of professionals, we bring the warmest care at the cheapest price there is! From one-to-therapy, group therapy sessions to peer support groups, we have them all!
Our goal is just one simple thing: A world where quality mental healthcare is accessible, affordable and acceptable to all.